It sure is easy to get a teenaged child angry. Just say “no” to something they want to do and there she blows. The thing is that sometimes there is nothing else to do. No other options – that are reasonable. But it leaves me worn out and just about as grumpy as she is.
The week has consisted of a school dance on Thursday, the first late night; an overnight soccer trip for the high school team, second late night; then she hardly gets home from the trip and she wants to go out. And I know that going out does not mean going to her friends house so they can get to sleep early!
She is partly mad because her birthday is this week and so she figures that this should have been her weekend to celebrate. I thought that she had arranged a party for the coming weekend but it turns out she has another soccer tournament trip then too.
She says most of her friends don’t want to come over because they would rather go to their other parties where they can do stuff. What kind of stuff? Well lets just say that not the stuff I think these kids should be doing! So I guess we just live in dullsville – and we aren’t planning on moving.
I think she could choose friends that would at least be loyal enough to her to want to come to her birthday party. But my opinion is definately not wanted right now.
This is the part of being a parent that really sucks!
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Hold the faith sister.
When she is old and grey and has lived a long life, she’ll thank you for …
um, I guess when she’s 70, you’ll be nearly 100…
So take my word for it. You did good.
🙂
Gives the verse “Be strong and of good courage”
a whole new dimension, Hmmm?
Just hang on in there. I can sympathise snce my kids are similar ages.
We’ve tended to be quite strict about what they can do, films they can see etc etc, and as you can imagine “EVERYONE is doing it” has been heard a few times. You’re completely right to follow the line about loyalty. Promoting selection of friends with worthwhile character really does help to. We’ve found this especially with Sarah, who wanted boyfriends (EVERYONE has them) from the age of 11.
There’s a film that may help you understand teenagers, if you’ve forgotten what it was like. ‘Kevin an Perry go large’ is rude, crude and almost completely like what I remember of being teenager in a permissive society – even when you’ve been brought up in a Christian home. Of course, if you haven’t forgotten then don’t watch the film 😉
Funny… I heard exactly the same tale of woe about my second daughter’s birthday a few weeks ago… “Why don’t you at least invite someone over for supper?”…. “they all have better/other places to be.” I wish our girls all had more things in common, so those friendships could be encouraged and grown! It’s good they’re at the same school, and some of them in the same french class! We’ll keep praying for them! Some days there’s nothing else that we can do!