Monthly Archives: January 2005

Trust

I am slowly reading through Yancey’s book Reaching for the Invisible God.  In a section from chapter 5 on trust he quotes C.S.Lewis.  Lewis is speaking of trust and using examples of a child or of an animal that we ask to trust us in order to help them overcome an obstacle or painful or dangerous situation.

We are asking them to believe that what is painful will relieve their pain and that what looks dangerous is their only safety.  We ask them to accept apparent impossibilities: that moving the paw farther back into the trap is the way to get out – that hurting the finger very much more will stop the finger hurting – that water which is obviously permeable will resist and support the body – that holding onto the only support within reach is not the way to avoid sinking – that to go higher and onto a more exposed ledge is the way not to fall.  (p. 68)

I guess we should expect that God will take us to places like that too.  He sees the whole picture and knows what is best for us to do.  It all looks so scary from our perspective. That kind of trust is so hard to learn. 

I guess if we don’t trust God then we only have ourselves.  I know that I put all sorts of defense mechanisms into place that are not very good for me or the people around me – like sarcasm or cutting others down to size when I am feeling threatened.  Ignoring problems in the hopes that they will go away on their own is one of my favorite solutions.  None of these are very healthy.  I think God wants us to face issues in ways that are healthy, even if not easy; ways that may seem painful or dangerous.  He has never said that we have to do this all on our own, however.  I guess our doing life on our own is just a childish idea of self sufficiency that we would be better off giving up.

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Today

I feel like a tiny child
Unable to say where it hurts;
Flushed with the fever of life
Listless and weak.
I wrap my arms around you
Like a child to it’s mother
Knowing that in that embrace
Healing will begin.

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Maybe it's a change of life thing

The women’s group at our church is looking to change.  Structurally.  Throw out the constitution and see what works.  Change focus from “women’s” group to women’s “ministries” of the church.

This is a group that I have chosen not to be a part of.  My interests and needs did not fall into what they dealt with at all.  And my time was and still is too precious to use in this way.

It is not that I do not admire what this group of women has accomplished over the years.  They are fantastic fundraisers.  The causes they have helped have been laudable.  But I do not have the hours it takes to make crafts or to bake.  One of the choices I have had to make to keep myself sane has been to choose not to do some things.  Baking was one of the things I chose not to do from years back – no time to do it and no need to have that kind of food available at our house. 

And these same women could keep on just doing all the things they are doing now for a few more years, running their own show, working and working.  A large portion of the women in the congregation would never find any reason to join them.  But these women – you’ve got to hand it to them – are brave enough to open themselves up to change and become more relevant to the needs of all the women in our church.

And me?  I am a bit upset with myself for being a very cynical woman.  Bordering on being negative and querelsome.  Especially when I am tired or can’t see the point in something.  Maybe I can blame some of my attitude on the fact that I am a bit worn out from coughing.  But, no.  I know that I often will tend to complain about how something is when I know that if there is something I see that needs to change then I need to be willing to do my bit to bring about the needed changes. 

Right now I recognize things that need to change but I don’t have the time or energy to do any more than I am doing right now.  So instead of being able to find a helpful way to solve a dilemma, I become cynical and negative.  Maybe just staying out of the way is safer for me – in other words involve myself with other things and keep on ignoring the things that I know need to change but that get me upset. 

But for awhile now, I’ve heard about some of the changes coming in the women’s ministries.  For some reason it has caught my attention.  I am a woman.  I am involved in ministry in many ways – some are at the church and some are part of how I choose to live out my faith out in the “real” world.  Other women I am close to live their faith out visibly at their workplaces and in their families too.  We need to develop a support network amongst each other that will let us share our stories and prayers, and supported by each other reach out into the world around us.  This is what I hope would become the essence of our women’s ministries.  That’s what I’d be willing to give up some time to accomplish. 

Maybe it’s a bit like a change of life.  Women can handle that!  Life’s always changing for us.  The new stage will be a challenge for awhile and then it is bound to bring it’s own new kind of freedom and adventure.

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Change? I wonder if it is possible.

I made it through the day.  Cold medication has got to be some of the most useful medication invented.  It does kind of dry up the head though.  Anyway, I was able to breath enough to play this morning.  I know I could have stayed home in bed but there is something I crave about participating in the communion service that I did not want to miss this morning. 

And I knew that I could spend all afternoon in bed – a luxury I won’t have the rest of the week. 

So all afternoon I snuggled up under the duvet with a book which I managed to read a small bit of before I dozed off. 

Tonight the group of women I get together with met for the first time since before Christmas.  We are part way through our reading of The Ragamuffin Gospel.  Tonight we were only four of our usual six so instead of reading we just sat and talked.  One of the things we discussed is what the new direction of the women’s group in our church might involve.  None of us are involved in the group right now.  There are a lot of reasons for the lack of participation; lack of time, different interests, seeing a need for involvement with each other that doesn’t involve some sort of fundraising activity.  We just don’t need another church activity if it doesn’t meet our spiritual needs.  Then we spent a great deal of time sharing our prayer needs.  It sure is nice having a group of other women that can be counted on to pray.  And we trust each other enough to share our real needs and not to worry about how we are coming across.  We know each other well enough to know that we have good reasons to be totally dependant on God’s grace.  That sort of freedom with each other is so good.

We’ll get back to the book next week.

Meanwhile some of us are going to go to that women’s meeting and see what is up.  Maybe change will happen. 

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I have a cold

and it is one of the worst I have had in a long time.  Leo informs me it is probably some parainfluenza virus.  I will go to bed and nurse it.  I can actually breath OK through my nose but it feels like an elephant is sitting on my chest when I breath deeply.  And everything aches.  I probably have a fever. 

I drove to Saskatoon today to watch Sara play soccer.  They ended up second in their pool so have a final game tomorrow. 

And I went over to McNally – Robinson to browse and try to pick up a certain book I need to read before I read the one I got for Christmas.  And I was going to pick up a Classic FM for Randall.  Some turkeys ripped off the CD’s out of the two copies that were left.  Stealing Christmas CD’s! 


So, I find out the store takes the CD’s out of the magazine.  So I was just jumping to conclusions and should have asked.

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Nothing

Tonight it seems that I have nothing to do.  Nothing except the unending things that go with having a home – laundry, some cleaning, loading the dishwasher… 

No meetings.  In fact I just lent my vehicle to Christian who is off to play for a little Tsunami relief benefit.  His seems to have sprung a leak from the power steering hose and it is a little too cold to crawl under the car and find out what went wrong. And I think it is safer if he drives mine tonight. 

It actually feels a bit weird as if I am missing some meeting that I should be at. 

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Laughter is the greatest stuff

It was great tonight to sit around and talk and laugh with friends.  Some weeks there is just a lot of difficult stuff making up life.  Funerals.  Cold – crazy cold weather.  Colds and flu.  Money being tight.  Laughter and good friends make it all easier to take. 

And you know what?  The same problems are there.  But something happens while you sit around laughing.  Old funny stories and experiences come out from the depths of our memories.  Cold weather that kills cars and makes men wear “men’s tights” and women wear long underwear loses it’s edge – at least till we all have to leave the warmth of the restaurant and go to our cars. 

In fact, I think laughter is probably as essential part of winter survival gear.  That and a decaf moka.

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Too Numb for Tears

Today I found out that one of my patients died suddenly.  I’ve seen her every month for about two years – a really nice teenaged girl.  Seventeen.  In grade twelve.  They say she had a massive heart attack.  How can a girl that age die of a heart attack?  It doesn’t make sense.  It is not right.  She was too young.  It is a bit like a piece out of a bad dream. 

You know what I hate the most ?  It’s the thought that in a few months we’ll have all moved on and will begin to forget.  But I bet her parents won’t  – ever.  Sometimes it seems like life should just stop for a bit to hold the memories longer.

And all the Tsunami victims – we’ll forget them too soon too.

Life will go on.  We forget or get numb or something. 

Sometimes I wish I could just break down and cry for all the hurts of people I know.  I think I might feel better even if it would not make anything better.

I think I am too much like my father.  Maybe I learned from him to hold in the emotions that simply had to be kept in control in order to help others.  I vividly remember the day he cried – huge gut wrenching aching cries.  He was a pastor and spent a lot of time with people in trouble.  One of the men he saw often went crazy and murdered his wife; drinking I think.  I suppose there were other times but this is the one I remember.  His hurt was suddenly just so visible and I was a little girl watching the strongest man I knew weep.

Funny how this memory always comes back when I wish I could wash away pain with tears.

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Today – last day of vacation

Today was full of many events; unrelated except that I was somehow involved in all of them.

Sunday, of course means worship practice, then service, then coffee.  The kids usually try to talk us into going out to eat somewhere.  They tried again today but we, holding the purse, outvoted them.  You would think I couldn’t cook or something.  Maybe they are right but I thought that salmon baked in a lemon dill sauce with scalloped potatoes and rice for the potato haters was adequate.

Patrick has returned to Saskatoon – went down on the bus today.  He is looking forward to getting back to classes after almost four months in the Congo visiting his parents.  We sat around after lunch before he left discussing ways to get a better understanding of what one is reading in the Bible.  I will miss these discussions with him. 

Then went up to the hospital again.  Dad was fairly confused this afternoon.  Much of what he said made little sense.  It is funny how the sentences are fine.  He is not talking gibberish.  Just whatever story he is telling is like a phrase pulled from a book that none of the rest of us are reading.  And he throws it out into the conversation for no rhyme or reason.  Another friend is in the hospital again so I dropped by to see her too.  And I have a little patient – a newborn waiting for a feeding plate for a cleft lip and palate – we are all waiting for a lab to open somewhere tomorrow.

This weekend I also wrapped up a writing assignment.  I feel like it is done anyway.  And it is good to be done on time – honestly I am one of the world’s worst procrastinators.

Tomorrow life after the vacation begins in earnest.  A full week of work.  Wonder if I will survive?

 

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And a Happy New Year to All!

Go ahead and make your resolutions.  I usually have no success keeping them so have given up on New Years resolutions.  I will just try to tackle each day as it comes as best I can.  Less guilt that way.  And probably the same success rate.

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